tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8592657854650237223.post7880033539959592964..comments2023-10-01T09:21:07.655-04:00Comments on My Three Sons: About Benjamin, Part 3Angelahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11387011004798871747noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8592657854650237223.post-12375201036286653592010-02-03T14:36:52.215-05:002010-02-03T14:36:52.215-05:00Have you been reading my mind? :)
Somehow (and a...Have you been reading my mind? :)<br /><br />Somehow (and after many years as a professional worry expert) I decided that I just wasn't going to worry anymore. If I go back and think of all of my worries and fears related to raising kids (especially Charlie) 99% of my worries and concerns never come true. Things just work themselves out. And after almost 5 months of three brothers living together it has been a beautiful thing to watch. Big brother Henry loves his brothers for who they are. Sure he is starting to notice some differences, but he makes a note of them and moves on. I've learned that if we don't make them a big deal then he won't either. Are kids are perceptive and they take their cues from us. <br /><br />As for reaching milestones with baby number three I've found it to be so refreshing. I have yet to crack open a baby-book. I don't obsess over tummy time. Heck I know the kid is going to roll, sit-up and walk on his own time. So for now we cheer and enjoy this sweet and simple baby time. Isn't that beautiful!?<br /><br />xx LibbyAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8592657854650237223.post-56694373179705374342010-02-01T20:02:48.748-05:002010-02-01T20:02:48.748-05:00I think your fears are legit. I still wonder what ...I think your fears are legit. I still wonder what it will be like when Rudy catches up with Raeleigh. However, I see another side. Rudy catching up with Raeleigh is going to be a good thing. There are 3 1/2 years between them but I can totally see them learning to talk at the same time. I think she is going to learn so much from him despite the age gap. I think you'll see Benjamin learn from Thomas as well. I think it's great that you are willing to share your fears like this :)Lora Leighhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04518131472950474963noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8592657854650237223.post-88324575952006035242010-02-01T15:23:29.939-05:002010-02-01T15:23:29.939-05:00You've read this from me before, but I'll ...You've read this from me before, but I'll add it here. "Being fair doesn't mean treating everyone equally, it means giving each one what they need."<br /><br />With twins, one delayed and one, well, ahead in some of the areas the other has the delays, I will say it can be obvious who is ahead of the other at times, but like Jenn said, you celebrate the victories of both children. Yes, those fought harder for seem to be a bit more special at times. And that's probably not always Mother of The Year stuff for me to admit, but, hey... <br /><br />I think the fact that you and Matthew are both talking through this now and communicating your fears and hopes just further shows the love in your family. That love will see you through this with flying colors!JILLnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8592657854650237223.post-90738494472339957342010-02-01T12:30:21.394-05:002010-02-01T12:30:21.394-05:00Love the last thoughts about longing for "nor...Love the last thoughts about longing for "normal". The Lord has been reminding me a lot lately that even if I had the life I would consider "normal" I'd still have struggles and fears just as you said. <br />I just read a really encouraging and convicting post about fear here:<br />http://www.aholyexperience.com/2010/01/why-your-fears-may-be-step-in-right.htmlAliciahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08086485675379541956noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8592657854650237223.post-84430863375385848912010-02-01T11:54:27.279-05:002010-02-01T11:54:27.279-05:00Thank you for always being honest Angela. I think ...Thank you for always being honest Angela. I think you managed to put into words what so many mothers have felt, but were too nervous to say out loud. You should be commended for putting it out there because I know you're not alone. God bless you guys and know that God absolutely will be there for you to help you through each and every season!!!Kellyehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02006161278905764659noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8592657854650237223.post-15138391498551998782010-02-01T09:50:56.467-05:002010-02-01T09:50:56.467-05:00No one knows what the future is going to bring us....No one knows what the future is going to bring us. You don't know for sure that Thomas will race up the stairs ahead of Benjamin. Or that Andrew will start to resent his delays. Or that you will. What we do know is each of your boys are different and they're each very much loved. That's all that matters. Special needs or not, all of our children will struggle at times and will soar to great heights at times. The balance in between is gravy. <br /><br />((hugs))Heatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11324063002043240075noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8592657854650237223.post-62845568127977638762010-02-01T09:17:17.657-05:002010-02-01T09:17:17.657-05:00Thank you for sharing this! It's so refreshing...Thank you for sharing this! It's so refreshing to read your honest words and to feel your heart as a momma. <br /><br />I agree with you 100% that God has given you each of your boys for a reason. You are the perfect family for Andrew, Benjamin and Thomas! And God is weaving all of this together for good.Dawnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00584131733860384832noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8592657854650237223.post-87111509594988443952010-02-01T09:02:12.848-05:002010-02-01T09:02:12.848-05:00You know, It's different how you *think* thing...You know, It's different how you *think* things will be then how they actually turn out.<br />Joey at nearly 6 still has such a communication delay and even though we have told his brothers that he has some delays, they still don't comprehend it fully. There are times when they seem to understand, but in the midst of daily life, all that understanding goes out the window - and they will be physically aggressive towards him because they are angry about something that he cannot help. In many ways it helps that Joey is the youngest - and for you, you won't have that, so the 'younger brother surpassing the older' in milestones could happen within the first few years.<br />I think you will be just as happy and excited about Thomas' milestones. It just seems that the ones that are harder fought are the most rewarding - and those will always be Benjamins. It doesn't necessarily take anything away from the other kids without special needs. As your love expands and grows to accomodate more children, so does your ability to share excitement in each of their milestones, and find joy in their different personality traits, quirks and talents. xoxoJennhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02149048192796015117noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8592657854650237223.post-2543081947435322302010-02-01T00:48:27.294-05:002010-02-01T00:48:27.294-05:00Angela, I have every confidence in you that, just ...Angela, I have every confidence in you that, just like you seem to figure out what to do and how to handle your emotions now, that wisdom will come from God just when you need it. There will be four baby grandchildren all growing and reaching milestones side by side. Thank you for talking about it and making it easier on the rest of us. (and for making me cry again!)Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06555046431561550052noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8592657854650237223.post-45508019390916808392010-02-01T00:24:08.407-05:002010-02-01T00:24:08.407-05:00Sometimes one of my girls will ask me if I love th...Sometimes one of my girls will ask me if I love the other more or less than her and always my response is I love you differently. Our love as mothers cannot be measured as more or less, just categorized as different. You will respond to Andrew, Benjamin, and Thomas individually as their needs require. I recommend buying and repeatedly reading "I love you the purplest." I hope this helps. I am praying for you.Triciahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00349785408418170356noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8592657854650237223.post-42539257920863069662010-01-31T23:44:15.254-05:002010-01-31T23:44:15.254-05:00Oh, girl. Sometimes I forget how much you deal wit...Oh, girl. Sometimes I forget how much you deal with because I have just fallen in love with Benjamin exactly the way he is. I know that is a naive/happy take on how difficult your life is in sorting through these uncharted waters. <br /><br />I think you are amazing and I think you shouldn't worry (too much) about how you will deal with some of these issues because I truly believe God will give you GRACE and WISDOM to walk through them...just as you have since the day Benjamin was born and you were thrown a major curve ball in life. <br /><br />I respect you outrageously. Thank you for being so real and honest and letting us see the struggles of a mom with a special needs child. It is good to know how to care and pray for you.<br /><br />I miss seeing Benjamin. I would love to hug and kiss him! <br />Love you so much. You are an INCREDIBLE mother.<br /><br />Just saw this verse the other day and thought it was really cool- especially for us moms who are desperately needing to know Jesus more!<br /><br />"I keep asking that the God of our Lord Jesus Christ, the glorious Father, may give you the Spirit of wisdom and revelation, so that you may know him better."<br /><br />StephStephaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16949471213153043914noreply@blogger.com